Emptying the Nest: How Parents are Helping their Kids Buy Homes

Diane Buchanan • December 4, 2018

For parents who have the means to help their kids buy a home in today’s pricey environment, gifting money towards a down payment is one of the best way to do it.

In February 2018, the  Financial Post  ran  a story  about adults still living with their parents. The figures are staggering. The number of adults still living at Parents Inn—as the  Post affectionately referred to it—is up 13.3 per cent since 2001. For reference, young adults living with a spouse or partner is down 14.6 per cent.

For many boomers who, through modern healthcare and better habits, have been given a second chance at a teenager’s existence (albeit with more money and less mobility), their kids are definitely cramping their style.

“I’m 66 years old,” says Steven James (not his real name), a retired mechanic from Oakville. “I didn’t work my butt off for the last 48 years to share my bathroom with my son.”

Steven’s not alone. Boomers across the country are done with multi-generational living. And it’s gotten to the point where they’re throwing money at the problem. Of Canadian parents recently  polled by CIBC , 76 per cent would give their kids a financial boost to help them move out, get married or move in with a partner.

But these days, given the average price of a starter home and the  state of employment for young people  (the record low since 1976 was still over 10 per cent), it’s going to take more than just a “boost.”

If you’re in a position to help your kids buy a home (and help yourself reclaim your home), you have many options. But a gift—otherwise known as a living inheritance—is among the most sensible. Here are three reasons why:

1. Gifting money makes the most sense for tax reasons.

As a baby boomer, you’re in the middle of an unprecedented wealth transfer that CIBC capital markets  estimates  to be in the range of $750 billion in cash, property and investment holdings. If you’re in the position to not need the money coming to you, that windfall will just amount to a big tax hit. However, if you were to turn around and gift it to your kids, it’s no longer a tax burden for you or them (unlike in the U.S., Canada has no gift tax). This  Globe and Mail  article  delves into the long-term tax implications of gifting money: namely less for your kids to pay in estate tax when you die.

For all intents and purposes, gifting money is a way to take it off your books, without putting it on your kids’ books.

2. Gifting money makes the most sense for legacy reasons.

Shirtsleeves to shirtsleeves in three generations.

This old proverb neatly sums up what happens when large sums of money are passed down through a family. You’ve no doubt heard of wealthy heirs who finally get their hands on the family fortune, only to squander it away within a generation.

While you still have some control over where your money goes, gifting a portion of it towards the purchase of an appreciating asset for your children is sensible.

You won’t want to gift that money in the form of straight cash—it would be too easy for your kids to spend it haphazardly.

And you won’t want to gift a piece of property over to your kids. This is seen as a gift of assets “in-kind” and the Canada Revenue Agency will treat the transaction as if you sold the property at fair market value. You’ll be hit with a tax bill for 50 per cent of the capital gains, which could be substantial on an inherited property bought decades ago.

To gift the money for a real estate purchase, you’ll sign a letter confirming that the money is a gift and isn’t required to be paid back. On the morning of signing day, you’ll transfer the funds to your kid’s account (most primary lenders need to see money in the account before they complete the mortgage transaction).

3. Gifting money makes the most sense for legal reasons.

If you want to help your kids with their mortgage and you don’t have the liquidity to hand over a sizeable amount of cash, the other option is to co-sign or guarantee their mortgage. The problem with this approach is varying degrees of liability. By co-signing or guaranteeing the loan, you are assuming responsibility if things go wrong for your child if they can’t pay their mortgage. You can potentially be putting your financial future at stake.

In other words, you’d have to have the utmost  objective  confidence that there’s no risk of them defaulting on their mortgage.

Gifting a portion or all of the down payment, like gifting anything else, severs the tie you have with the money. None of it belongs to you, nor does the liability that comes with how it will be used.

But the best part of gifting your kids money to buy a home…

…will come when you are invited over for the first time and can see the fruits of all your labour: a better life for your children and their family.

 

This article was written by Dan Yurman and was originally published here on Canadian Mortgage Trends on March 13th 2018. 

DIANE BUCHANAN
 Mortgage Broker

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How to Access Your Home Equity Wisely

By Diane Buchanan • December 3, 2025
Need to Free Up Some Cash? Your Home Equity Could Help If you've owned your home for a while, chances are it’s gone up in value. That increase—paired with what you’ve already paid down—is called home equity, and it’s one of the biggest financial advantages of owning property. Still, many Canadians don’t realize they can tap into that equity to improve their financial flexibility, fund major expenses, or support life goals—all without selling their home. Let’s break down what home equity is and how you might be able to use it to your advantage. First, What Is Home Equity? Home equity is the difference between what your home is worth and what you still owe on it. Example: If your home is valued at $700,000 and you owe $200,000 on your mortgage, you have $500,000 in equity . That’s real financial power—and depending on your situation, there are a few smart ways to access it. Option 1: Refinance Your Mortgage A traditional mortgage refinance is one of the most common ways to tap into your home’s equity. If you qualify, you can borrow up to 80% of your home’s appraised value , minus what you still owe. Example: Your home is worth $600,000 You owe $350,000 You can refinance up to $480,000 (80% of $600K) That gives you access to $130,000 in equity You’ll pay off your existing mortgage and take the difference as a lump sum, which you can use however you choose—renovations, investments, debt consolidation, or even a well-earned vacation. Even if your mortgage is fully paid off, you can still refinance and borrow against your home’s value. Option 2: Consider a Reverse Mortgage (Ages 55+) If you're 55 or older, a reverse mortgage could be a flexible way to access tax-free cash from your home—without needing to make monthly payments. You keep full ownership of your home, and the loan only becomes repayable when you sell, move out, or pass away. While you won’t be able to borrow as much as a conventional refinance (the exact amount depends on your age and property value), this option offers freedom and peace of mind—especially for retirees who are equity-rich but cash-flow tight. Reverse mortgage rates are typically a bit higher than traditional mortgages, but you won’t need to pass income or credit checks to qualify. Option 3: Open a Home Equity Line of Credit (HELOC) Think of a HELOC as a reusable credit line backed by your home. You get approved for a set amount, and only pay interest on what you actually use. Need $10,000 for a new roof? Use the line. Don’t need anything for six months? No payments required. HELOCs offer flexibility and low interest rates compared to personal loans or credit cards. But they can be harder to qualify for and typically require strong credit, stable income, and a solid debt ratio. Option 4: Get a Second Mortgage Let’s say you’re mid-term on your current mortgage and breaking it would mean hefty penalties. A second mortgage could be a temporary solution. It allows you to borrow a lump sum against your home’s equity, without touching your existing mortgage. Second mortgages usually come with higher interest rates and shorter terms, so they’re best suited for short-term needs like bridging a gap, paying off urgent debt, or funding a one-time project. So, What’s Right for You? There’s no one-size-fits-all solution. The right option depends on your financial goals, your current mortgage, your credit, and how much equity you have available. We’re here to walk you through your choices and help you find a strategy that works best for your situation. Ready to explore your options? Let’s talk about how your home’s equity could be working harder for you. No pressure, no obligation—just solid advice.

Smart Strategies to Save for Your Down Payment

By Diane Buchanan • November 26, 2025
How to Start Saving for a Down Payment (Without Overhauling Your Life) Let’s face it—saving money isn’t always easy. Life is expensive, and setting aside extra cash takes discipline and a clear plan. Whether your goal is to buy your first home or make a move to something new, building up a down payment is one of the biggest financial hurdles. The good news? You don’t have to do it alone—and it might be simpler than you think. Step 1: Know Your Numbers Before you can start saving, you need to know where you stand. That means getting clear on two things: how much money you bring in and how much of it is going out. Figure out your monthly income. Use your net (after-tax) income, not your gross. If you’re self-employed or your income fluctuates, take an average over the last few months. Don’t forget to include occasional income like tax returns, bonuses, or government benefits. Track your spending. Go through your last 2–3 months of bank and credit card statements. List out your regular bills (rent, phone, groceries), then your extras (dining out, subscriptions, impulse buys). You might be surprised where your money’s going. This part isn’t always fun—but it’s empowering. You can’t change what you don’t see. Step 2: Create a Plan That Works for You Once you have the full picture, it’s time to make a plan. The basic formula for saving is simple: Spend less than you earn. Save the difference. But in real life, it’s more about small adjustments than major sacrifices. Cut what doesn’t matter. Cancel unused subscriptions or set a dining-out limit. Automate your savings. Set up a separate “down payment” account and auto-transfer money on payday—even if it’s just $50. Find ways to boost your income. Can you pick up a side job, sell unused stuff, or ask for a raise? Consistency matters more than big chunks. Start small and build momentum. Step 3: Think Bigger Than Just Saving A lot of people assume saving for a down payment is the first—and only—step toward buying a home. But there’s more to it. When you apply for a mortgage, lenders look at: Your income Your debt Your credit score Your down payment That means even while you’re saving, you can (and should) be doing things like: Building your credit score Paying down high-interest debt Gathering documents for pre-approval That’s where we come in. Step 4: Get Advice Early Saving up for a home doesn’t have to be a solo mission. In fact, talking to a mortgage professional early in the process can help you avoid missteps and reach your goal faster. We can: Help you calculate how much you actually need to save Offer tips to strengthen your application while you save Explore alternate down payment options (like gifts or programs for first-time buyers) Build a step-by-step plan to get you mortgage-ready Ready to get serious about buying a home? We’d love to help you build a plan that fits your life—and your goals. Reach out anytime for a no-pressure conversation.